![]() ![]() She’s happy to be single or with someone else and, therefore, minds her own business. When your girlfriend wants a break, on the other hand, she doesn’t think of you and doesn’t contact you. Since you remain on your partner’s mind throughout the day, your partner regularly shows that he or she is thinking about you.Īnd when your partner returns home, you are once again reunited and stronger because, as you know-absence makes the heart grow fonder. When your partner goes on vacation without you, he or she often texts and calls. They are completely different from breakups. Relationships may work when your girlfriend takes an occasional unaccompanied vacation, but breakups don’t. This deceiving trick certainly works for your ex. In so doing, your ex is also given the opportunity to make a run for it. In my opinion, when a person lets go of you in small increments by first suggesting a break, followed by silence, the dumper believes it will make you feel better.Īlthough it sounds like a good idea at first, it doesn’t accomplish great results in the long run as it merely keeps you in the dark until the actual separation occurs. On the day of the breakup, your ex felt an overwhelming desire for space, hence why the best non-hurtfull approach seemed to be to propose a break. In your case, this is the “it’s just a break” excuse.Īlthough your ex-girlfriend probably doesn’t have a degree in neuroscience or psychology, she is subconsciously well aware of the effects of false hope. Moreover, Viktor explains that people react positively even in their darkest moments-as long as they are given false hope. ![]() ![]() To put it in my own words, the author defines clouded visions of hope as grabbing onto unrealistic expectations for support when the current situation seems hopeless. In a book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Emil Frankl, an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor, describes this hope-driven excitement very well. In other words, it’s a manipulation technique meant to establish an idea in your mind-the impression that everything will be alright and that your situation is going to get better. This breakup excuse is just a deception-a distortion of senses a lie to create a false understanding of reality. To her, it seemed like an excellent plan to leave you behind in a peaceful manner. Subconsciously, your former girlfriend thought that by giving you a little bit of hope to cling on to, she could then safely-without feeling guilty or any harsh feelings on your end, make a swift transition from being in a relationship to being single. And the second reason is to make a quick exit out of the relationship.The first reason is to ensure she doesn’t hurt you more than she needs to.If your girlfriend wants a break, she is, in essence, using euphemism for two strong reasons. It has prolonged the pain of many dumpees for years, so it’s time we finally reveal its true meaning. We need to get to the bottom of this deceiving, hope-instilling cliché once and for all. ![]()
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